@ghostofmybrain
"background noises feel like a personal attack" this is absolutely true. It's why I think people making noise are being immensely inconsiderate when really they're just existing.
@minetruly
Can I just say how refreshing the lack of background music is. It definitely makes the dialogue easier to understand for at least some autistic people. I guess it's not universal or you'd have mentioned it, but an issue I and I think other people have is if there is other background noise happening, even if it's significantly quieter, it makes the speech I'm supposed to focus on hard to understand. I can't do crowded restaurants or bars, and I need subtitles on movies because of the sound tracks. Thank you!!!!!!!!!!! This was so effortless to process!!!!!!!!!! Imagine if we could just turn the sound tracks on and off with a button like subtitles...
@Kickxella
"Why would anyone hold a cup that way?" I felt that in my bones.
@DaynaLebo
This is great. I think this finally helped me determine that I am NOT autistic. Just ADHD. And that my wife IS autistic. Seriously, we've been trying to narrow it down for years.
@intelligentgluteus-maximus4720
Hi, my name is Chris. Apparently you know me better than 98% of people who've met me.
@courtneyB369
“The desire for efficiency” is a constant - when I accepted others don’t have it, it’s been both easier and harder 😂😅
@brittanykaufman9394
All I know is, the more I watch your videos, the more I don't don't feel so alone, so different from the rest of the world. For that I offer my deepest gratitude.
@ericnastav
The compulsion to correct them absolutely IS necessary. You can't let them go through life with an inaccurate perception.
@REWIRE_404
4:05 "Why are you so tense?" "Because the fridge has been running in B flat for the last hour..." 😂
@jadewytch2335
I don't expect anyone to read all this, but just in case, here you are. I'm not officially diagnosed with autism but believe there is a great possibility of it. Many of my realizations came in adulthood after learning that many of my behaviors, thoughts, sensory experiences - are not usual for neurotypical people. I DO have a diagnosis of ADHD and a history of being fairly severely bullied throughout the entirety of my school experience. #1 - Sensory experiences - When I can feel my socks, everything else has to stop and I deal with sensory overload. I laugh about this now but as a child I recall fighting with my mother constantly about wearing certain clothing such as sweaters, tights, or socks and even struggling to sleep at night because my blankets were scratchy. To this day, if my feet are cold, I cannot sleep. #2 - Background noises - I do take medicine for ADHD [Vyvanse] and have only done so within the last 5 years as that is when I received the diagnosis. That said, there are plenty of times the medication will wear off or I simply forget to take it and noises absolutely drive me insane. Restaurants are an excellent example of this where I'm trying to talk with my partner but I am distracted by the conversation 20 feet away that the elderly couple is having about their granddaughter's blah blah blah and the waitress in the kitchen talking about her feet hurting and being tired and litereally EVERYONE'S silverware clinking on their plates as well as the air conditioner/heater blower and that one really loud light that's buzzing. I bought Flare Audio Calmer ear inserts to help deal with this and even though it doesn't prevent me from tuning into other conversations, they DO substantially diminish the overwhelm I experience because of the clinking silverware, dishroom sounds, and zappy lights - and even children crying [which I have empathy for and can still be overwhelmed by at the same time]. #3 - What your brain focuses on - I'm absolutely guilty of focusing on one single detail of something and letting it ruin an experience. Especially in movies and I noticed I did this about 10 years ago. So I made an agreement with myself that if I notice those details [like a cup or "omg THATS NOT REAL" that it was okay for me to let those things go because the movie is for my enjoyment and if my inner critic is judging the entire content on minor details, I'll lose a lot of enjoyment. So I give myself permission to let it go. I don't fully, but enough to get through the movie/experience with some enjoyment - most of the time. I mean, there ARE just glaring exceptions..... #4 - Your unique rules for life - Um. Yes, I choose a parking place far away from where others would want to park so that I can park in the same place every day and have had absolute meltdowns because someone parked in my spot and then I didn't know how to respond or where to park because I wasn't prepared to have to look for a spot and - yeah - I've missed work over this... Or... people cannot just show up at my door or call me [this may be more millenial than autistic, but eh worth mentioning] - if you do not text me before you come over, the surprise of your presence will throw me off kilter so much that I probably will not be good company. I simply do not switch plans easily. I HATE when others try to change my schedule. [my adhd also hates a schedule, so I'm constantly at odds with myself]. #6 - Overthinking - Just look at the wall of text here. Speaks for itself. And also, yes, I will think about things I said - or DID days, weeks, months, or YEARS later. Part of this could be a trauma response from being bullied/low self-esteem, but also I do engage in overthinking regularly trying to analyze whether or not I understood a conversation or - ugh - jokes/memes even. #7 - Time struggles - I have a weird thing where I experience both time-blindness and also can usually tell you exactly what time it is within about 3 minutes without looking at a clock. When I am in a mindful state, I have a pretty accurate internal clock. When I am engaged in a preferred activity or special interest, sometimes it's like I will think it's been 30 minutes when it's been more like 2 or 3 hours. This interferes greatly with bedtime-timeliness and sleep regulation for me. #8 - Eating habits - My partner is CONSTANTLY trying to get me to try new foods. My default response is "why would I want to do that when I know what I like?" Yesterday he was like - do you want to try a grilled cheese sandwich on pretzal roll and he laughed at the panic-stricken and confused look on my face as I tried to suss that out because I love pretzals and I love grilled cheese, but why would I want to put them together when I like their tastes separately? I told him I'd think about it. I probably won't. But I'll consider it... lol. But yeah. I have usually one thing that I eat at every restaurant and that is what I order... why mess with a good thing?! Plus ... certain textures... ugh... #9 - Catching vibes - Yep. ALLL of this. #10 - Explanation styles - Gestures broadly at the wall of text you're looking at. shrug* Yep. I over explain. :D
@davidpeacock4632
My ex-wife used to keep saying I'm autistic and so I was eventually checked by a specialist psychologist. I'm not autistic. I was telling that story to someone recently, who commented that perhaps my ex-wife is autistic. I have none of these 10 traits but my ex-wife has all of them! She was projecting.
@kensears5099
Bottom-up processing really shows up for me when it comes to house-cleaning. It makes me nearly physically ill to even consider doing the floors or dusting all the surfaces when, LOOK, there's a spot of tomato sauce in that corner of the stove and I haven't separated the whites from the colors in the laundry yet and the papers on my workdesk are in a chaotic jumble and my hair feels grundgy (which means I need a shower, and HOW can I POSSIBLY even THINK of cleaning the house when I'm not fresh and clean myself!). "Overhaul-clearning" makes me nauseous-disoriented inside, but give me a pile of teacups you simply have NOT been able to get the tea stains out of, and I'm in heaven. I'll make each one shine like brand new. And... what, you cleaned the rest of the house while I made the teacups brand-new clean? Well... so it all worked out then, didn't it....
@jannaprofile9525
You're so articulate and also have such a great sense of humor. I think so many people will appreciate this
@JohnVKaravitis
⏰ TIMESTAMPS: 0:00 Intro 1:27 Sign #1 - Sensory experiences 3:42 Sign #2 - Background noises 4:31 Sign #3 - What your brain focuses on 6:56 Sign #4 - Your unique rules for life 7:45 Sign #5 - Processing time 9:09 Sign #6 - Overthinking 9:50 Sign #7 - Time struggles 10:30 Sign #8 - Eating habits 11:11 Sign #9 - Catching vibes 12:17 Sign #10 - Explanation styles
@Jennith777
Noticing details in movies has given me mad skills at knowing how it will play out, much to the frustration of my co-viewers: They unexpectedly gave a main character consistent dark circles under his eyes…he’s going to act out or die or both (it was both, at the end of the movie). They put the main character in wrong colors, we’re supposed to think she’s untrustworthy or unhinged. They didn’t edit out the mundane moment they’re bothering to show us: something significant is about to happen (genre and any change in the music will tell you what). If it’s a movie with any potential for violence, and they suddenly put a character in white, it’s going to have blood on it. I think noticing these choices is fascinating and fun; but it’s not to most others, apparently. 🤷♀️
@ozoutdoorsman
10/10. As a late diagnosed Autistic your channel has helped me immeasurably to understand my experience as being very real for me. Thank you.
@Drewydrew397
Thank you for your videos!! My 9 year old twins are autistic. They also have ADHD and a lot of anxiety. Your videos really help me understand what they might be thinking and how they might be seeing their world. I feel like I can empathize with them more and be more patient with the struggles. I also think you and Debbie are very brave and kind to be so open about your lives. Thank you!
@joyannabernardo
10/10. The way you present these and their realness for me made me giggle with every one. Thank you for doing this work. At 42 I’m just discovering my autism and learning about the reasons for so many things about my life that felt wrong or off or terrifying.
@michelledoll3712
People have always disrespected me because my time sense SUX. I mean, I set alarms for medication, meals, phone calls, you name it. Just so all you "average" people know, people who have no sense of time are not "disrespecting" your insensitive a$$. Some of us "exceptional " people feel time as slow (when we're bored) or fast (when we are engaged). Not as hours and minutes. OTOH, I am great with details, can concentrate hard enough to bore holes in stone, and never get lost. And if I set a goal, I don't stop until I reach it. Often crashing into obstacles that get in my way... or people...😂 I resonated with almost everything you mentioned, incl the whole empathy thing. I only allow a very few people into my life for that reason. My b.s. tolerance is at zero these days. Thanks for this humorous look into autism. You made me smile.😎
@tamirundell8392